Astrology Secrets Behind Successful Relationships

Ever known somebody and felt just that connection? The feeling you get when you ask yourself, "Where have you been all my life?" But have you ever encountered a person that appeared to be a perfect fit, but there was just something that made them sound and feel imperfect every time you were around them? No, you're not dreaming in your sleep. Perhaps it is the stars who have something to say about it.

Astrology and relationships have gone hand in hand for thousands of years. No marriages are arranged in India unless the kundali is consulted. And there's a logical explanation why. Astrology is a mirror through which to see ourselves and our partners. It doesn't determine your fate, but it certainly helps to explain why many things occur in love. So let's get into the actual astrology secrets behind successful relationships that most people do not delve into deeply.

We are all familiar with our 'house' sign. You are a Scorpio, and your partner is a Libra, and somewhere you read they don't seem to be a very great match. So now you're concerned. However, this is the reality that alters everything; your sun sign is merely one tiny bit of a very large puzzle.

Your birth chart is a detailed blueprint of your personality, your feelings, your desires, and your romantic trends. The sun sign is like your face to the world. But there are a few other planets going around inside, too. Your Moon sign will let everyone know how you feel and what you need emotionally in order to feel safe in a relationship. Your Venus sign reveals your romantic love and the type of love that makes you feel good. Your Mars sign gives you insight into how you pursue your desires and what bodily and emotional energies you bring to a relationship.

For example, two people can have the same sun sign but be totally different in love because their Moon, Venus, and Mars are different. That's why the birth chart analysis is more than just sun sign matching. 

To discover why some couples are fighting all the time over the tiniest matters while others are just getting along without much effort, consider the Moon signs. Astrologically, the Moon represents your emotions, your inner child, your gut feelings, and how you are treated.

If two people's Moons are compatible, there is a natural flow between them. They are able to intuit each other's feelings. If the moon signs are conflicting, even common things can become misinterpretations because both parties are reacting to the same situation with different emotions.

Someone who has the Moon in Cancer needs a ton of emotional support and massage to feel loved, for instance. When their partner has a moon in Capricorn, they express themselves lovingly through action such as taking responsibility and being dependable. Both of them are right, but if you don't understand this, then the Cancer Moon person feels unloved, and the Capricorn Moon person feels unappreciated. One of the largest relationship compatibility secrets that astrology offers us on a silver platter. 

Want to understand the attraction and the chemistry in a relationship? Don't read by a sign, but read by Venus and Mars.

Venus is the planet of love, beauty, pleasure, and what we appreciate in our partner. It reveals your love expression and how you are in your relationship. Venus in Taurus is seeking stability, physical contact, and strong bonds. A person with Venus in Gemini desires to have lighthearted chats, diversity, and a lover who is stimulating to the mind.

Mars, however, is energy, passion, drive, and, yes, physical chemistry. It demonstrates what you do to get what you desire in love. It also impacts how you deal with arguments and how you voice desire.

If one's Venus is in harmony with another's Mars, it's like a pull of electricity. This is one of the most definite indications of romantic compatibility in Vedic astrology. If Venus occupies the same or a friendly sign in the woman’s chart and Mars in the man's chart, there is an affinity, attraction, and warmth between the man and woman. It is not magic; it is the work of astrology. 

In Vedic astrology, two houses matter the most when we talk about love and marriage. Romance starts in the 5th house. It's all about butterflies, exciting dates, and fun new love. All the planets and signs in the 5th house give a story of how you know and act on love.

A 7th house in the horoscope is the zone of long-term love. It is the home of serious partnerships, committed relationships and marriage. The planet that resides in your 7th house and the sign of your 7th house cusp will reveal a lot about who you are looking for in a significant other and what you need to make your relationship successful.

For example, if a person has his/her Saturn in the 7th house, he/she may fall in love and marry a little later in life, but once he/she does fall in love, he remains in it for life. Saturn is not in any hurry. It makes them last. With Jupiter in the 7th house, people are likely to be fortunate in their partnerships and have good partners, who are generous, wise, and supportive.

Knowing what is in your 7th house can save you years of confusion as to why you are on the receiving end of the same type of person time and time again. 

This is one thing that you will never read about in astrology and relationships that most people will never encounter in their daily lives: the Navamsa chart, also known as the D-9 chart. Vedic astrology places a greater emphasis on this than on the birth chart itself when it comes to marriage and partnerships that last longer.

The Navamsa chart is similar to a magnifying glass. The Navamsa provides soul-level information about your marriage and what it will be like when the novelty of the relationship subsides and you get to experience it on a more profound level.

The Navamsa is consulted by astrologers for a deeper insight into the actual nature of the spouse, the nature of the relationship over time, and whether there will be any deep harmony or hidden obstacles. Although the main charts may appear as if they are well fitting, a challenging Navamsa may reveal tension that develops over time. This is one aspect of relationship astrology that few people are aware of asking about. 

In Indian astrology, compatibility is not merely about planet and house compatibility. It delves deeper into the 27 Nakshatras (lunar mansions) that the Moon passes through. Each individual is born under a particular Nakshatra due to the position of the moon at the time of birth, and this has a huge significance in Kundali matching.

In the Ashtakoot Milan marriage system, which is practiced by the majority of Indians, the compatibility is calculated on eight different parameters, being the reason why it is called Ashtakoot Milan. A score of 18 or higher is regarded as a good match out of a total of 36. However, the most important of these factors is 

• Gana — tells you whether two people have compatible temperaments (divine, human, or demonic nature energy)

• Nadi — one of the most important factors, checking physical compatibility and health

• Bhakoot — looks at the Moon's position to check emotional and financial harmony

• Yoni — checks physical and intimate compatibility between partners

Dwellings leading to matching Nakshatras may find that they can sense that they are made from the same stuff, that they share a strong "connection." Traditionally, Rohini and Mrigasira nakshatras are a beautiful joint combination due to their sensual and gentle attributes.

Saturn is feared in most charts,, particularly when it joins the 7th, or when the position of Saturn in the chart is close to the 7th. In fact, when it comes to forming a long-lasting love, this is one of the most overlooked energies in astrology, the planet Saturn in relationships.

Saturn is a teacher of commitment, patience, responsibility, and the kind of love that can grow over the course of years and not months. Saturn in Synastry (a comparison of two charts) tends to create an atmosphere of seriousness and obligation between partners. They are by no means the most passionate couple in the room, but they're almost certainly the couple who's the most committed and lasting.

The Saturn thing is if you do the work, you'll be rewarded. When in a Saturn relationship, don't look for butterflies in the morning. You can find depth, loyalty, and a partner who will truly be there for you in the difficult times. Actually, after the initial excitement phase, that's what most people want when they get there. 

Have you ever had a relationship that you felt pulled into because it was unhealthy but couldn't get out of? The kind that you simply couldn't understand why you were always returning? This is a typical Rahu-Ketu house combination in the synastry chart.

Rahu is the Moon's ascendant node, while Ketu is the Moon's descendant node. In Vedic astrology they are called "shadow planets" and are the expressions of our life's work, the past lives, and our soul's unfinished business. If Rahu or Ketu is located in the personal planets of one's birth chart in a synastry chart, then the relationship has a sense of inevitability.

These are known as karmic relationships, and they are intense, for a reason. They enter our lives to bring us some important message. Many of these relationships are lifelong. Others split up after learning the lesson. But none of them leave you the same as before. Astrology can help you realize this; if you do, rather than beating yourself up or the other person, you will see the big picture. 

Another must for those who don't know. All of us experience periods of planets in Vedic astrology known as Dashas. Each planet governs a certain set of years in life, and the current active Dasha (period of time) determines the themes you are having at the moment.

This can make the same relationship feel very different in a Venus Dasha (when it can be romantic, easy, and loving) vs Saturn Dasha (when it can be testing, responsible, and even distant). When the planetary configuration is difficult for many couples during a difficult Dasha period, they often split up, which really isn't necessary, as it was simply a planetary influence to test and strengthen, rather than to cause the separation.

If you understand your current Dasha and how it plays with any relationship's chart, it can be a game-changer. It allows you to see the reasons for the difficulty in a particular phase and to be able to stand firm or make a decision about the phase. 

This is likely the most important tip to keep in mind. Do not leave someone just because your signs don't match. It does not predict heartbreak in stone. It does provide you with self-awareness and tools with which to understand the patterns in love.

Two hearts that are supposedly hard to build can create a beautiful and a flourishing relationship when they are willing to get to know each other and put in the work. But two people with a compatibility score of 100 can make each other miserable if they don't grow and communicate.

The stars lead the way. You always have options.

One of the best things you can do for your love life is to use your own astrological insights to learn about the love life of your partner and the timing of the relationship. It's like having a map in a city you've never been to. It is still possible to go anywhere; at least now you know the ground.